How to let go of suffering

Many of us from all walks of life and at every level of society have become addicted to suffering. Our addiction reaches such an extent that even when everything seems to be going perfectly; we find a reason to feel bad. A classic example is during those times when everything is going far too well, it feels too good to be true, and we look for ways to question, doubt and even complain about our good fortune! The good news is we can free ourselves.

1. Rising above

For some of us there may be a certain comfort in suffering, in being a victim, because we don’t have to take responsibility; it’s much easier to blame someone else for our own discontent. Some of us get lost in the suffering we have been through in the past, unable to embrace things anew or see them through fresh eyes. We then miss out on experiencing the beauty of the present moment. We need to restore our innocence and focus on the love within us and in the world. This requires rising beyond he discontent of the intellect, and embrace freedom and joy in every moment.

 

2. Living in the moment

Living in the moment helps us rise above the judgments and complaints of the intellect to embrace the world around us with innocent, joyful acceptance.  When we experience love-consciousness, we realize that everything is perfect exactly as it is. This does not mean we shouldn’t want to improve our situations and grow. Evolution is the nature of life, and everything is always moving forward; but if we choose to embrace the beauty of what is happening right now, instead of focusing on what we perceive as wrong, love grows, instead of fear

3. Taking responsibility

In order to find true freedom from suffering, we need to begin to find happiness within. As adults, we may resist taking responsibility for our dissatisfaction. It’s easier to blame the politicians, our parents, religion, pollution, our bosses, and so on. We can change our external circumstances ad infinitum, but in reality that will never change anything. The outside is just a mirror of our own discontent. Fulfillment, peace, joy, and love do not come from outside. 

4. Speaking the truth

In modern society, we have learned to lie all the time. We lie to please others,  to defend ourselves, and to hide the parts of ourselves we have learned to judge as wrong or inappropriate. We think, It’s just a little lie, but there are hundreds of them! Whenever we lie, we are abandoning ourselves; we are not loving ourselves. Whenever we modify ourselves in order to receive love, we are separated from self. In speaking our truth, on the other hand, we never compromise ourselves in the search of approval from the outside.

 

5. Free yourself now

We can find freedom from our addiction to suffering when we choose, instead, to focus on love.

Imagine when you look in the mirror

that the face looking back at you is someone you truly love.

Just imagine. . . 

He love you..He love u not....

Something to share with u guys….

How to know when a man loves you.

Perhaps he loves you, but he is not in love with you, yes there is a huge difference. Some of the easiness signs to determine he loves you or not are...

* When a man loves a woman he treats her equally.

* He treats her like his queen and is always there for her.

* When she needs someone by her side, he is standing there.

* He never hits or belittles her.

* He is supportive and understanding.

* He shows her with his actions.

* He is loving and affectionate.

* He makes you feel special.

* He treats u like a queen.

* He listens to what you have to say.

* He thinks about your feelings.

* His friends and family all respect you.

* He sticks up for you at all times.

* He is interested in your wants and needs.

* He asks for your opinions.

* He takes good care of you.

* How he looks at you.

* He tries to impress you.

* He calls you frequently.

A man might not be so great at telling you his feelings, so make sure you watch his actions. We all know the saying "actions speak louder then words" and in a man’s world it is true. The way he talks about you and treats you is the best way to determine if he truly loves you or not.